Shepherd's Hill Journals

February, 2007 - Blinders, Blunders, Blood, Blogs and Blonds

Church; we need to pull our heads out of the sand. The common denominator with our troubled "Christian" youth today is that Christians have bought into the ways of the world rather than bringing the world to the ways of God. I am amazed at who our kids heroes are! If you want to freak out, go to your kids' MySpace page. Not to sound legalistic, but I hope your kids doesn't have one. His/her page may be fine, but be sure to check their fiends' --I'm talking "Christian" friends! Just for the record, there is porn on MySpace--and plenty of it! And it is accessable to everyone with a computer--with or without a filter. 
Ask a kid why a certain person is their hero and their answer is too often "because they are cool". The kid does't even know what their "heroes" values are! Sadder yet is when they DO know! Its style over substance. I am sorry about Anna Nicole Smith's death and the death of her son, but was it really a surprise? Wasn't it the logical outworking of her lifestyle? I heard a newsman say she was an American icon--you know, like Paris Hilton, and the guys from Jack***. Postage stamps used to display presidents and other positive role models of American culture--I don't think Elvis qualifies. When Hugh Hefner gets a stamp you can say you heard it here first.
A couple of months ago, Billy Graham marched over 16, 000 people out of an auditorium in New Orleans onto Bourbon Street singing "When the Saints Go Marching In". People were pouring out their drinks and asking to be prayed with. Police were prepared for a riot but saw a revival instead!  Where was the press for this true American hero? We all know what his values are. You think he's got a stamp on the presses any time soon?
A short time ago, there was a blood drive at one of our local high schools. Sixty percent of it had to be rejected because it was infected with STD's!!!  What else do you expect from a culture whose "heroes" sin for a living! 
But today's "icons" and "heroes" are the outworking of my generation's moral recklessness. Our lives defined our art. Today, however, our "art" defines our lives. But it's our kids who've been sucker punched, while my generation gets rich pandering to their vices. 
America is creating a generation without consciences, and no moral reference point by which to live life. It took a people committed to Christ to build this nation--it will require the same kind to preserve it! That is what we hope to create at SHF.
~Trace Embry; Director Shepherd's Hill Farm


February 2007: WINTER WONDERLAND
 
Makeshift sleds, toboggans, and skis were the toys for the boys one morning as we all woke up to a beautiful blanket of snow about 3 inches deep. We postponed school long enough for the kids to get their fill of wet snow and slush sliding up their sleeves and pant legs. Snowballs, snowmen, snow forts, and snow angels dotted the landscape making SHF look like a snow globe (you know, one of those little things you shake). It was a particularly special treat for our California and Florida residents. I had the pleasure of thawing frozen pipes at Rebecca's house which thank the Lord, weren't broken. Somehow, abut a two foot section of pipe insulation just wasn't there. Needless to say, it's there now.


February 2007: JUST ANOTHER CLASSIC EXAMPLE
 
Why do so many parents have trouble believing their kids want boundaries? We have a young man who had been making tremendous progress for about 6 months. But, his behavior and attitude had slipped over the Thanksgiving and Christmas break. We had a little pow wow with his mom and dad, and had to get firm with them. We basically told them they had helped unravel his progress for the last six months in just two short visits home. A parent with a big heart and a big wallet can sometimes be a big problem. After telling them they were wasting a lot of time and money, the light came on, and they finally agreed to heed our advice. When junior returned  from his most recent weekend visit with his parents I passed him on campus and asked him how it went. He said with a big smile, "real good!" I asked him if he noticed anything different about this last visit. He answered with a bigger smile, "yes!" I then asked him what the difference was. Being a boy of few words, he simply said, "stricter!" "Did you like that , or dislike it?", I asked. With an even bigger smile, this little 16 year old responded, "I liked It!!!" For kids who have boundaries, and the boundaries are enforced, they may not always respond as our little 16 year old; yet, deep inside, they still want the boundaries because it tells their soul their loved. For the kid who has few or no boundaries, even his flesh manifests the desire/need for them by delighting in them when they finally appear. While the other kid may not manifest delight, he is delighted nonetheless. He feels better about himself, and more secure. Incidentally, the more consistently boundaries are enforced, the fewer boundaries that need to exist in the first place.
 
 
January 2007: A YEAR IN REVIEW
 
In the year 2006, God blessed us abundantly with life-transforming stories of kids being healed, and ready to do their part to change the world for the Kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. We acquired a game room, complete with a pool table, ping pong table, weight set, and more. And best of all, because of your faithfulness, none of it came out of our operation budget. It was all donated! We began plans to transform a new kitchen and cafeteria from our existing pavilion, which will allow us to serve more kids. Roof's that needed repaired and painted were restored. Our friends from RVICS converted our old weight room into a beautiful new class room. The girls now have their own classroom separate from the boys. We now have three classrooms, not counting the classroom for equine therapy. RVICS also built us a beautiful deck, covering it with a new roof next to the chapel. Kids, and their relatives were saved and baptized, as families became reunited. One of our founding teachers went on to India with his family to pursue his missionary calling. Our head counselor, Eric, lost an eye for a year, but against all odds, had it restored to 20/20. Then, there is Shawn, who lost an eye in that terrible crash; yet, had his life restored after coding at the accident scene. We were finally able to provide health insurance for most of our full time staff, but had to raise the price of the program to do it. We saw horses giving birth to foals, while adult humans and their kids received birth of another kind. We played host to local, state, and nationally recognized government officials for tours of the facility here at SHF. But, most important, we were hosts to God's Spirit. And I am proud to say that we haven't compromised our convictions that God is the Author of the universe; that He is worthy of our praise, worship, adoration, and obedience. I truly believe we have completed another year of operation under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, and the Truth of His Word. 
 


December 2006: GOD'S WAYS PROVED RIGHT AGAIN
 
Early in her stay at SHF, the father of one of our girls got extremely upset with me because I had to lay some things on the line about some of his unbiblical attitudes and practices which I felt were contributing to his daughters delinquency. At the time, I really felt he was going to yank her from the program. Since that time, this man has done a complete 180 degree turn. He has since accepted the Lord; he's reading his Bible; adjusted his music and entertainment habits (which, by the way, will eventually become changed appetites); and is now open to what Scripture, and SHF, has to advise him concerning his relationship to God, and with his daughter. When his daughter returned from Thanksgiving break, she approached me with her face beaming--and happily reporting to me about how her dad wouldn't let her do this thing or that thing; and, how he wouldn't let her wear this or that, or go here or there. Dad learned a little word that subconsciously told his daughter he loved her and valued her. The word is "NO" ! But it is his developing relationship  with his daughter (spending time with her) that is making the word "no" more palatable for her. As Josh McDowell says, "Rules without relationships=rebellion!"


December 2006: NURTURING NATURE
 
You have heard me say this before, and I will say it again and again. Kids not only need, but want boundaries! And they prefer those boundaries enforced by someone older, wiser, bigger, stronger, and more determined to do right than they are to do wrong. This is where their sense of security comes from however, because of the breakdown of the family in today's society, many kids are mistakenly finding their security in sex, drugs, rock and roll, gangs, and guns. One of the hardest things for me to get parents to believe is that their kids actually want boundaries. They understand junior needs boundaries they just have difficulty believing that junior actually wants them. Often, kids join gangs for the security of the boundaries set by the gangs. There is a warped kind of safety, and sense of belonging, that comes from gang life which causes a person to submit to that system. There are things you can't do and , things you must do within that system, or there are consequences. Any healthy family requires similar things without the "warped" part. The relationships developed within any system are what produces beliefs; beliefs form values; and values drive behavior. I also believe that behavior influences attitudes; attitudes develop personality (for good or bad); and personality attracts relationships. See, it all starts and ends with relationships--the very reason God created us, and starting wilt Him! It can easily become a vicious cycle if the cycle isn't begun with healthy (Godly) parenting right out of the womb. It's the idea that if you don's shape your kid's conscience early on, someone or "something" else will! When a personality is developed in a kid, they will attract and/or be attracted to a particular type of peer, or peer group. This is why it is so important that beliefs and values are shaped early on in juniors life (ideally by those who know Him best and love Him most -- the parents), because it will affect behavior, which as I just stated, will eventually develop in him a personality that will, in due time, determine the caliber of friends he attracts or picks for himself (Bad company corrupts good character / He who walks with the wise grows wise). Let's not forget that DNA plays a big role in a kid's personality as well. But, I truly believe that Godly "nurture" will vastly reduce the chances that the worst stand of DNA, "nature", has of making a kid delinquent. So, new parents, limit TV for junior (none before the age of 2--this is science!); and, heed Duet. 6:6-7. I won't quote it, so you will be more inclined to read it! Amen.


December 2006: BAILS OF FUN
 
When Allison, my daughter, took the girls out under a full moon to play on hay bails one bright evening, they played and laughed until their sides hurt. They all had a blast; but, one girl, who used to pursue the life of sex, drugs, and rock and roll, among other things, said it was the most fun she has ever had in her life! She recently gave her life to Christ, stating Allison's role model for her led her to a commitment to Christ. Allison is doing a great job for her dad and her Father!


November, 2006

Dear Friends,
An early frost may have been responsible for the beauty of the Autumn leaves this year.  The leaves are dying, but everything else is alive and well--and the kids are as colorful as the trees!

                                               TRICKS AND TREATS

Many of the kids dressed up in creative costumes, and had a blast collecting candy from the few residents we have here at SHF.  Without the usual ghost and goblin garb, the kids were very creative in selecting their disguises.  When they stopped at Pop Pop’s cabin, they were indulged with an over abundance of candy--it’s that grandparent thing.  When they stopped at Rebecca’s house, they were greeted at the door by a 50 year old woman dressed up to look 100!  It was a good laugh.  They bagged a bunch there as well.  By the time their night was over they had all the candy they would have collected in a small neighborhood.  It was all innocent fun as the kids celebrated Reformation Day.  Of course, all the candy was confiscated for temperate distribution!

the destination glorious!  Amen.


                                               UNLIKELY HAPPENINGS

It is so neat to see our kids participating in things they never would have dreamed of at home.  A couple of the boys were so excited to tell me of their homemade crawfish cage they made out of sticks and screen.  In their stream, they actually caught some crawfish, and other fish--keeping them as pets for a while.  The girls are cherishing their visits at a local nursing home where they sing hymns for the elderly that they learned from Pop Pop (Beth’s dad).  The other day the girls asked all the staff to take a few minutes out of their workday to perform a short song and dance rendition of Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer.  It was hysterical!  These are just a few examples of kids getting their childhood back.  What a sight to see former drug addicted, gang banging, rebellious, parent abusing, promiscuous, self-hating teens catching up on what our culture has stolen from them.   They will soon be writing letters to different TV advertisers urging them not to sponsor shows that help pervert the minds and spirits of today’s viewing audience.  You can assist them by going to ww w. parentstv.org,  and write to the sponsors of garbage TV as well.


                                                          BE AWARE

As time goes by, I have noticed inquiries to SHF are coming from parents of kids younger and younger as our nation’s moral standards plunge deeper into the abyss. A generation ago, the average age for a kid’s first encounter with anything pornographic was 12 years old.  Today it is 5 years old!  A generation ago, it was probably a still photo in a magazine comparable to what is seen on the racks of most check-out lines today--and that, viewed only as often as the neighbor kid’s parents weren’t home.  Today, however, kids can view the most obscene moving pictures contrived by mankind (or animal-kind)--all day everyday in the privacy of home, which is too often devoid of parental supervision.  Think about that before you allow your kids internet access in their own bedroom.  This is not the same world we grew up in; so, we have to adjust our parenting accordingly.  If you’re doing it effectively, you will look ridiculous in the eyes of most.



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